A man needs responsibility in his life.
He needs a purpose.
Without it, he at best becomes yet another overweight man-child doing nothing remotely productive with himself, at worst, he becomes a criminal or male apologist.
Cell Phone Codependency
It’s easier than ever before to waste your time. When I was a kid, you had to work to find distractions, unless you were lucky enough to have a television in your room or your parents loaded up one of the thousands of America Online discs that came to your house every month.
Now, we have these incredibly powerful computers in our pockets that we are glued to constantly. To the point, in our negligence, we murder a young mother and daughter – and keep right on texting.
These devices give us incredible use. We can research anything, learn anything, build anything.
Or we can dive headlong into the narcissist’s platforms: Facebook and Instagram.
These sites are just communication tools and platforms used with friends and family. But, all too often when you open these apps, what you see is ” look at me look at me” nonsense post Desperately (with a capital D) seeking attention. Or girls who always seem to include cleavage in their pictures to get your like or your attention.
How many hours are wasted to get vapid, empty responses from people on social media?
Everybody seems to think they’re a celebrity.
But, that time. That attention. It’s getting so you can’t even drive without people busily texting their friends about nonsense that can wait. Or, worse yet: those people that think they deserve your immediate response and get mad when they don’t have it.
No. My phone is a tool for me.
Not a tool for you to have my immediate, constant attention.
Your life purpose, unless you’re Mark Zuckerberg, is not on Facebook. You will not find happiness there. If you need proof to that, just look at all the depressed kids on Tumblr.
If you want to use your phone to build something, research something, where do something productive with your life that’s fine. I write all of these posts on my phone. But, do yourself a favor: go into your notification settings and turn off all social media notifications. You don’t need them immediately. They will still be there when you want to look at them.
Maybe you’ll even find the time to see the people around you. Your friends and family. In person, where they can appreciate you.
Personal attention from someone who doesn’t have a phone in their face is increasingly rare and to be valued.
I want my children to remember me, my face. Not my eyes occasionally darting up from behind a Samsung logo.
And you certainly don’t want to get sucked into six hours of porno or games a day.
So what is your purpose?
That can be anything. Anything that you can devote yourself to that will better your life. That will better the world around you.
If you’re handy build something. If you’re artistic paint something. If you are a good communicator volunteer with children.
Whatever you decide to do – don’t wait for permission. You don’t need it. When you do something self-driven, for yourself, for others, you don’t ask the world for permission to do it. You give that to yourself.
As in other posts: wake up early. Exercise. And then find that time, at the beginning of the day, where you can accomplish whatever you set your mind to. No excuses. No bullshit.
Until you do this, for yourself, your life will continue to feel empty.
There is a massive difference between doing something at someone else’s command and taking the power for yourself.
This culture is a Barren Wasteland. They’ll push you to watch porn, or play some stupid game, or do whatever their wife or girlfriend tell them to. Like the average person. But the average person is miserable.
So don’t be average.